Lust & Sexuality
Purity isn’t perfection—it’s pursuit. And it starts with returning to the Father.
💔 The Struggle Is Real, But So Is Freedom
Lust doesn’t knock politely—it barges in.
It shows up late at night, in quiet scrolls, in unresolved wounds, in loneliness that feels too heavy to carry.
For many of us, the battle started early—before we even had words for it.
A stolen glance. A hidden addiction. A moment of compromise that turned into a cycle we couldn’t seem to break.
But here’s the truth: You are not your struggle.
And your sexuality was never meant to be a battlefield—it was meant to be a gift under the covering of God’s love, not a curse wrapped in shame.
🌿 From the Garden to the Grave: The War for Our Desire
In the beginning, there was no shame.
Man and woman were created for covenant.
Adam and Eve stood before each other—naked and unashamed—not just physically, but emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.
When the Bible says “Adam knew Eve,” the Hebrew word for knew (yada) isn’t about biology—it’s about intimacy.
Communion. Vulnerability. Union in the safety of God’s order.
But when sin entered, everything shifted.
They covered themselves. They hid—not just from each other, but from God.
Shame became a reality. Guilt, blame, and brokenness followed.
The knowledge of evil entered their minds—and with it, a distortion of what love, sex, and identity were ever meant to be.
This fracture birthed a power struggle between man and woman.
And as Scripture unfolds, we see it ripple across generations—homes broken, hearts divided, and love redefined outside of God’s covering.
🧬 Man, Woman, and the Wholeness of God’s Image
When God formed Adam from the dust, He declared that it wasn’t good for man to be alone.
But God didn’t make another man. He pulled something out of Adam—a part of him that was once whole but now needed to be restored.
From Adam’s side came Eve—not a duplicate, but a counterpart.
She was similar, yet distinct. Bone of his bone, flesh of his flesh—yet bearing features, emotions, and attributes Adam never possessed on his own.
Together, male and female reflect the full image of God—His strength and His nurture, His authority and His compassion, His justice and His gentleness.
“In the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.”
— Genesis 1:27
That’s why covenantal marriage between a man and a woman is not just tradition—it’s divine theology lived out in the flesh.
It tells the story of unity in difference.
Of wholeness through complement.
Of oneness without sameness.
So when we redefine love in a way that removes the distinctions between male and female—we don’t just challenge Scripture, we blur the image we were meant to reflect.
Same-sex attraction, though often rooted in real wounds or emotional needs, is a distortion of a deeper longing—a longing to be seen, affirmed, and connected.
But when that longing turns inward—man to man, woman to woman—it becomes a closed loop that can’t reflect the creative, covenantal image of God.
This isn’t about shame.
It’s about alignment.
Love without truth is sentiment.
Truth without love is harsh.
But love rooted in truth? That’s what sets us free.
📖 God’s Design Still Stands
Even in a world that rewrites definitions and rebrands desires, God’s original design has not changed.
It was never outdated. It was never oppressive.
It was always about love protected by truth, intimacy covered by covenant, and desire directed by devotion.
God didn’t create sex to be shameful—He made it sacred.
He designed it to be a reflection of something greater: Christ’s love for His bride.
A love that gives. A love that covers. A love that stays.
But love outside of God’s order always turns in on itself.
What was meant to unite becomes a weapon that divides.
What was meant to be mutual becomes manipulative.
What was meant to heal becomes something that hurts.
And yet—His design still stands.
The call to holiness isn’t a rejection of desire—it’s the redemption of it.
It’s the invitation to return.
To trust that God is not withholding something from you—He’s preparing something for you.
“This is the will of God—your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality.”
— 1 Thessalonians 4:3
God’s design is not about suppression.
It’s about freedom that doesn’t cost your soul.
🔍 What Lust Really Is
One day, the Lord asked me, “What do you think lust is?”
I said, “It’s a supercharged sexual desire.”
He said, “It’s even simpler—and more profound. Lust is the enemy’s perversion of your desire to be loved.”
That hit deep.
Because under every lustful thought, every quiet compromise, every moment of clicking or fantasizing or settling—there’s a wound.
A hunger.
A longing to be seen, known, held, pursued.
But when we try to satisfy that longing outside the arms of the Father, it warps into something hollow and shameful.
What God made to be sacred becomes secret.
What was designed for covenant becomes currency.
💭 You Might Be Wrestling With…
Secret pornography or masturbation cycles
Shame after sexual compromise or ongoing sin
Lustful thoughts or fantasies that feel uncontrollable
Same-sex attraction and inner confusion
The weight of past abuse or trauma
A desire for intimacy that never seems to lead to peace
Fear of being honest with anyone about what you’re carrying
If that’s you—you’re not weak.
You’re human.
And if no one has told you yet: God is not afraid of your struggle.
He doesn’t flinch.
He doesn’t shame.
He draws near—and when you invite Him into the fight, it’s no longer yours alone.
🕊️ Truth That Frees
You are not what you’ve done.
You are not what’s been done to you.
Your struggle is not your identity.
The presence of temptation is not the absence of salvation.
God’s grace doesn’t excuse sin—it empowers you to overcome it.
“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to man. And God is faithful… He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”
— 1 Corinthians 10:13
You were never meant to fight this alone.
Confession breaks the cycle.
Community keeps the light on.
And the Holy Spirit gives strength you don’t have on your own.
📚 Curated Resources
These are teachings, tools, and testimonies that we’ve personally been blessed by—from leaders who walk the walk and teach with both truth and tenderness.
🎙️ Teachings & Sermons
“The War Within” – [Speaker Name]
“Breaking the Cycle of Lust” – [Speaker Name]
“Holiness in the Age of Compromise” – [Speaker Name]
📖 Books & Devotionals
Finally Free – Heath Lambert
The Purity Principle – Randy Alcorn
Live Dead Journal – Daily surrender and spiritual focus
🎧 Podcasts & Playlists
The Basement – “Let’s Talk About Porn & Freedom” – Tim Ross
John Bevere – Lust & Purity Series
Worship Playlist: “Pure Fire” (curated for prayer + consecration)
🛠️ Tools
Covenant Eyes / Accountable2You – Safe, Spirit-led accountability
Scripture Reading Plan: Psalms 51, Romans 6–8, 1 Thess 4, 1 Cor 6
Journal Prompts:
“Where did I first feel unseen?”
“What lie about love am I still believing?”
“What am I afraid would happen if I brought this into the light?”
🗝️ Final Word
If you feel stuck—God’s not done.
If you feel numb—He’s still pursuing.
If you feel disqualified—He’s still calling you son.
This isn’t just about behavior.
It’s about belonging.
And the way out isn’t by trying harder.
It’s by coming home.
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.”
— Matthew 5:8
You weren’t made to survive sin.
You were made to live free.
